Tough Decisions: Stopping Foster Care, Only Providing Respite Care.

Because we took our first respite care placement over the weekend, we were assigned our "permanent" Iowa Kids Net social worker. Our initial worker and new worker came over on Thursday to discuss the transition and answer any questions we had about fostering, respite care, and adoption. 

My feelings about this transition are neutral. I really, really liked our first Iowa Kids Net worker - she was a dream! I'm sure we will like our new worker as well, but you know how it is; once you build a bond with someone about something so personal it's hard to make a smooth transition.

John and I also decided it would be best if we only provided respite care for a while, at least until the New Year. We will still be on the DHS adoption list, if a child or children who we can parent becomes available for adoption, we will still be considered. 

The decision to only provide respite and not foster was difficult, and it made me mad. Right now I am in a tight spot at work. I am swamped. 

To say I am overwhelmed is an understatement

I leave for work ridiculously early, and arrive home after 5pm every night (when I should be home well before that). When I do get home I have about 3-4 hours of grading. If john and I were to foster under these circumstances, it would mean a child would spend almost 11 hours in daycare.

11 hours!!!

That's just not feasible. And until I am able to devote more time to my personal life, we simply don't feel comfortable fostering.

This situation makes me sick. Sick with anger, really. I am starting to resent my job...and I love my job, especially my students.

The good news is that I have a plan, and John and I have carefully weighed our options. We want to start a permanent family, and we know there are a few changes we have to make to do so. But that, my friends, is another post for another day.

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