Preparing to Write a Letter to Birth Parents.

Our first Home Study visit went smashingly yesterday. I really got myself more worked up than I neeeded to be. And, no, it wasn't even close to a White Glove Test. Our Case Worker asked all about our families and lives growing up. We had to give detailed information about our siblings and parents, how we were raised, our memories of growing up, etc. After this 2-hour meeting we promptly headed to Four Oaks for our 3rd PS-MAPP class.

Our next item on the agenda, you ask? Write a letter to a potential birth family.

This letter will be given to the birth family when their child is placed with us. The letter should introduce our family to theirs, and reassure them of their child's safety and well-being while in our care.

So, exactly should I do that? 

We haven't been parents before, and because the birth family is in a difficult situation (ya know, because their child is being removed from their home due to abuse, neglect, or abandonment) we find it hard to indentify what that family wants to hear to be "reassured".

Shouldn't it be enough to know that their child is not in a toxic, harmful environment anymore? Why do they need an eloquently written letter to settle their fears? Part of me thinks they should have fears, they should be scared, they should be embarrassed, etc. Granted, there are circumstances with the birth family that J and I will never understand, and sometimes children are removed from the birth families home against their will.

Regardless, this whole "letter" business has us a little perplexed. We're still early in the training process, and I especially have a lot of growing to do when it comes to working with birth families. J is a very patient person, and he rarely gets anxious or flustered. This will make him a great candidate for working with birth families.

I have a lot to learn from him :)

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